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Please Read: Leave it to the Big O, aka my Oprah story

A mother whose child did not yet have medical insurance had to use the last of her money to pay for medicine. This left her without money for diapers so we gave her a few days supply. Those diapers made all the difference.

~ Peggy, Social Worker

Dear Friends,

Before I co-founded Help A Mother Out (HAMO) I was a stay at home mom, focused on raising my two young children (then ages 9 months and 3 years old). I remember poring over countless parenting books and blogs, and fretting about whether my kids were getting enough sleep, nutrition, and intellectually stimulating experiences. And while I wasn’t keenly aware of it then, I now know that my husband and I are extremely blessed to be able to provide the most basic needs for our kids.

On a day in February 2009, after viewing the Oprah Winfrey show about how the Great Recession was impacting struggling families, I knew I had to do something to help. My first thought was to host a children’s clothing drive, but after reaching out to a handful of social service agencies, I learned about diaper need. The thought of a young child spending the entire day in the same diaper just broke my heart. I quickly learned that reliable access to diapers is the cornerstone for healthy babies, healthy communities, and a family’s ability to thrive.

Everyday I am grateful that HAMO gets to do something about this problem. Everyday I am in awe that a home grown project with a start up investment of $100, could help so many struggling families, as well as inspire action in many others (including many of you!). Together we have done a lot of good. Nearly 750K diapers have been distributed through our network of partners, including homeless centers, family resource centers, public health departments, and food pantries. Equally important, we have raised awareness and advocated for needy families. And, we’ve accomplished all of this on a tiny budget.

We are proud of our accomplishments, but the truth is our organization has a lot of work ahead of us. Our vision is a day when every baby has an adequate supply of diapers, and for every agency we have been able to help, we have had to turn two away due to lack of resources. Advocating for and getting diapers to families in need takes real financial resources. We are inviting you to “adopt” Help A Mother Out this holiday season.

For us to do our crucial work we need funds to pay for general operating and program expenses. You may think that your gift of $30, $50, $100, or any amount that is meaningful to you, may be just a drop in the bucket, but in reality, your help is actually what makes this whole operation possible. Since we started Help A Mother Out, 85-percent of monetary gifts collected have come from individuals like you.

Thank you for helping us to help more mothers, children, and caregivers in 2012.

Wishing you and your family peace, joy and abundance,

Lisa Truong, co-founder, executive director

On behalf of the entire Help A Mother Out family and network

p.s. We are pleased and very grateful to announce between November and December 31st, our friends at Huggies Every Little Bottom will match your monetary gift for unrestricted funds, with an in kind diaper donation – up to 300K diapers. Your timing doesn’t get any better to help.Thank you for your generosity and believing in our work.

New Haven: Precious Little People

Diapers, diapers, diapers. Is my baby crying because his diaper is full? Are the diapers the right size? Do the diapers need washing? Do I have enough diapers to see my child through the day? Of course, I have a four-week-old baby, which accounts for my diaper preoccupation and the fact that I’m typing this one-handed while I cradle him with my other arm. For many families in America, the simple lack of a healthy change of diapers required by child care providers – and therefore access to child care – is yet another barrier to escaping poverty; a barrier that can be easily lowered with the DIAPER Act.

“You could see the relief on her face when I said we could help with the diapers,” Lissette Cruz, director of a private child care in New Haven, Connecticut, shares about a recent interaction with a mother. Lissette meets constantly with families who are struggling to meet the basic needs of their families though working full-time or while enrolled in work-training programs. She explains that many young moms of children in her care are in work-training programs or work in retail where the hours are not consistent and the pay is low. While the state may help with some, but not all, child care expenses , the additional cost of supplying a healthy change of diapers is often more than these families can muster. WIC and Food Stamps (SNAP) do not cover diapers, toiletries or feminine hygiene products, and a healthy change of diapers costs at least $100 per month (more if your primary grocery store is a corner store that may sell diapers individually at inflated prices). The result of such diaper need: a child who must be kept at home in a dirty diaper, and a parent unable to make it consistently to work or training because of it.

The DIAPER Act was introduced by Congresswoman DeLauro (CT) this October. The Act seeks to amend the Child Care and Development Block Grant Act of 1990 in one simple way: by permitting local agencies who receive funds to determine if they want to use some of the Block Grant funds they currently receive to purchase diapers for qualified families. The DIAPER Act does not require additional funds.

Precious Little People, the child care Lissette directs, partners with the New Haven-based the Diaper Bank, a non-profit whose focus is on providing diapers to those in need. Across the country there are several diaper banks, but the need for diapers far outstrips the supply. The Diaper Act has the potential to grant access to child care for families across the nation who have previously been denied by their inability to consistently supply a healthy change of diapers. When I asked Lissette if having the option to use funds for diapers would help the qualifying children in her care, she said yes without hesitation. She also stated that it would help those who provide child-care by allowing more families to go back to work.

The DIAPER Act seeks to give states and local agencies MORE freedom to remove an identified barrier to participation in the work place.

When the topic of diaper need arises, inevitably the suggestion that cloth diapers be used is mentioned. Unfortunately, most child care providers require disposable diapers. As a parent who has cloth diapered her own children, I would love to see a shift in this requirement; but until that time we must not ignore the current needs of children for disposable diapers. There are significant problems for those families who do not have easy or regular access to washing facilities.

The DIAPER Act includes both cloth and disposable diapers in its description.

So how do we make this happen? The Child Care and Development Block Grant Act had broad bipartisan support in 1990 when signed by President George H. Bush. Ask your representative, no matter what the party, to co-sponsor the Diaper Act, H.R. 3134. Let them know that this action would empower state and local private, non-profit and for-profit agencies to help parents move off of welfare and into the workplace, and take children out of poverty.

And now, I’m off to change a diaper.

Show your support for the DIAPER Act by signing the online petition from Help A Mother Out.

For more information about the Diaper Act visit The Diaper Difference Coalition.

Photo at top used with permission: Nina Naylor Photography

THE DIAPER ACT (HR 3134) SUPPORTS CLOTH DIAPERS

HAMO note: The DIAPER ACT asks for NO additional federal funding to states. The legislation would empower eligible childcare providers (by each state) to provide diapering supplies with existing grants IF they so choose. Be sure to visit the Diaper Difference Coalition for more details and visit our page on this effort.

This is a cross post, with permission from Jennifer Labit, Founder and CEO of Cotton Babies, and creator of awesome cloth diapering products.

 

On October 6th, Congresswoman Rosa L. DeLauro introduced a piece of legislation that would underwrite diapers for families using subsidized childcare. The DIAPER Act (HR 3134) would provide diapers to families using subsidized childcare, enabling both parents to work and bring home income that would improve their family’s standard of living. Food is expensive. Diapers are expensive. Childcare providers require that you provide diapers for your baby. It’s difficult to work, even when childcare is free, if you can’t afford to buy diapers for your baby to use during the day.

Last week, my husband and I sat down with Judge Jimmie Edwards to discuss how we can help educate the teen moms in his school about diapering their baby on a shoestring. During our conversation, Judge Edwards spoke of families who can’t wash their child’s clothing because they can’t afford hot water or detergent. He now offers the children in his school access to warm showers and a washer/dryer so they can have clean clothes. We have to take these limitations into account when working to develop material to educate these girls about how to best take care of their baby. Among other things, we are taking some inspiration from The Flats Challenge(created by Kim Rosas and inspired by my post about “Almost Free Diapers“). Among other things, we will be showing these moms how to use flats, teaching them to “bucket wash”, and working to find a way to easily provide them with detergent.

We walked away from our conversation with Judge Edwards shaking our heads in dismay. We knew it was bad, but we didn’t realize it was that bad. After doing some more reading, I’ve realized that most large cities have literal third world countries in their backyards. Real families are living day-to-day realities that most of us who live in suburban America choose to ignore. We don’t go to that part of town because it might be dangerous. The cultures develop almost independently as children are raised in different schools, attend different churches and socialize only with children from their neighborhoods. Suburban families choose to remain obtuse; an embarrassing state particularly for the highly educated customers who tend to choose cloth diapers over disposables.

We have been writing for several years now about how low income families simply don’t have reasonable access to diapers. We know how badly the babies in these communities need diapers. As a single company though, Cotton Babies can’t possibly “fix” all of the needs the babies have in those areas. Laws governing WIC don’t allow the support of anything but nutrition services. Food stamps work in grocery stores and don’t work on diapers. The only federal funds that can be used on disposable diapers come from TANF (Temporary Aid to Needy Families), a grant given out by the states to only the most destitute of families. The maximum amount a family can receive each month is only around $200; varying slightly up or down depending on the number of children. Families only qualify for TANF when they really have absolutely nothing. At that point in time, having a roof over their head trumps buying diapers. Other than TANF, there is no existing legislation or program to really help these families with a very basic, simple need. Friends, this is really the most meaningful effort I’ve seen by Congress in a long time to reach out to young, needy families. Legislation like the DIAPER Act could really make a meaningful difference.

As word about this legislation has spread online, I’ve seen some in the cloth diaper community reach to the DIAPER Act with outrage because they think it only pays for disposable diapers. The definition of “Diaper” as written in the DIAPER ACT (http://www.opencongress.org/bill/112-h3134/text):

3) DIAPER- The term ‘diaper’ means an absorbent garment worn by infants and toddlers who are not toilet-trained or individuals who are incapable of controlling their bladder or bowel movements. ‘Diaper’ refers to a disposable diaper or, where the administering agency elects to make available, a washable cloth diaper and the requisite diaper laundering and delivery services necessary to provide sufficient clean diapers for the eligible population. ‘Diapering supplies’ means items, including diapers, diaper wipes, and diaper cream, necessary for safe diapering.’.

First of all, I stand by and applaud the Congresswoman for her efforts to reach out in a meaningful way to needy families. The DIAPER Act includes financing for the purchase of and laundering of cloth diapers. It also helps with the purchase of disposable diapers, enabling families without washing facilities to have access to clean, safe diapers for their baby.

I’ve been surprised by those who don’t seem to understand the plight of these families. On Friday, Rush Limbaugh went off on the Diaper Act, describing it as ludicrous and ridiculous. His reaction to the act demonstrates that he doesn’t yet understand what these families are living through. He went so far as to label it “Pampering The Poor”.

This image is from Rush Limbaugh’s website.

For the sake of simplicity, here is the rest of the Act:

SEC. 2. FINDINGS.
Congress finds, pursuant to its authority under article I and the fourteenth amendment of the Constitution, that–
(1) access to a reliable supply of clean diapers is a medical necessity for the health and welfare of infant and toddlers, their families, and child and health care providers,
(2) a supply of diapers is generally an eligibility requirement for infants and toddlers to participate in early childhood educational programs,
(3) providing a sufficient supply of diapers can cause economic hardship to needy families,
(4) absent access to child care, parents and guardians of infants and toddlers cannot participate in the workforce, thereby causing economic harm to many families,
(5) providing diapering systems to needy infants and toddlers through child care programs furthers the national goals of improved health and sanitation for families and for staff in early childhood education and child care programs, and
(6) making available clean diapers to needy infants and toddlers who would otherwise be prevented from participating in child care programs furthers the national goal of safe and quality child care, and therefore enables better implementation of the Child Care and Development Block Grant Act of 1990.

SEC. 3. PROVISION OF DIAPERS AS CHILD CARE ASSISTANCE.
The Child Care and Development Block Grant Act of 1990 (42 U.S.C. 9801 et seq.) is amended–
(1) in section 658E(c)(3)(C) by adding at the end the following:
‘Provision of diapers for use by eligible children within the State who receive or are offered child care services for which financial assistance is provided under this Act is a direct service and shall not be included in administrative costs.’,
(2) in section 658G is amended by adding at the end the following:
‘These activities include the provision of diapers and diapering supplies to enrolled child care providers sufficient for the population of children under the age of three whose parent receives or is offered financial assistance under this Act.’, and
(3) in section 658P by inserting after paragraph (2) the following:
‘(3) DIAPER- The term ‘diaper’ means an absorbent garment worn by infants and toddlers who are not toilet-trained or individuals who are incapable of controlling their bladder or bowel movements. ‘Diaper’ refers to a disposable diaper or, where the administering agency elects to make available, a washable cloth diaper and the requisite diaper laundering and delivery services necessary to provide sufficient clean diapers for the eligible population. ‘Diapering supplies’ means items, including diapers, diaper wipes, and diaper cream, necessary for safe diapering.’.

Rush should consider reading through the research generated by Huggies last year; research that inspired their “Every Little Bottom” campaign. Their research showed that 1 out of 3 parents is choosing between diapers and something essential, like food. It says that 1 out of 20 parents is reusing dirty disposable diapers. These are families who cannot afford to feed their families because they have a baby who needs diapers. When groceries win and they don’t buy diapers, they wipe the poop out of the diaper and use it again, causing life threatening, infected rashes in some infants. Rush simply doesn’t understand what these families are living through and how much change this simple legislation could bring to impoverished families in the United States. [Rush, knowing that someone on your staff will read this, you should know that I’m a conservative. I’m a small business owner. I don’t talk about how I vote, but I do educate myself carefully, including being sure that I understand your perspective. On this particular issue, you’ve missed it 100%.]

Yes, the DIAPER Act will cost taxpayers money, but frankly, this simple legislation would put more moms to work. Their paychecks generate income that can be spent on consumer goods and services, driving up GDP and, frankly, generating spending that helps getting our country out of the current debt crisis. They only have to work a few hours at minimum wage to generate $20 in revenue to offset the government transfer payment to buy that package of diapers. They don’t pay taxes, but you can bet that the businesses producing those goods and services pay a hefty tax bill. I know my company pays it’s fair share. This bill will enable mothers to work and earn money to feed their children. They have to be able to go to work if they are ever going to get their family off of government support.

My family was living this reality not too many years ago and we haven’t forgotten where we came from. I carry a heavy weight of responsibility to lighten the loads of families struggling with the same issues we came out of so miraculously years ago.

Knowing that Cotton Babies couldn’t carry the load alone, I have done an enormous amount of research about the issue of getting diapers in the hands of needy families. As recently as last month, I had meetings with senior leadership in federal, state and local government agencies to discuss how we could partner with those agencies to reach out to those families. My research has shown that there is only one source of federal assistance to needy families that helps with the cost of diapers. The TANF grant is administered by the states and is available only to the most destitute. TANF provides a few hundred dollars of assistance each month towards household bills; money most commonly used on rent and utilities, not on consumables like food or diapers. With each agency we’ve spoken with, we’ve found that leadership understands the need for diapers, but is prevented from acting to help families by the way legislation is written. The DIAPER Act is the first legislation we’ve seen that actually takes a step towards helping these families in a meaningful way.

I’ve focused most of this post on the human side of this issue, but from a business perspective, this legislation could be very meaningful for the cloth diaper business community. If the government underwrites the cost of cloth diapers to needy families, we have a simple way to get our products in the hands of the families who need them the most. This drives up your throughput, enabling you to put more families in your community to work.

I’d like to see the cloth diapering community get behind the Diaper Act. The community has a loud voice that frankly, could work to educate Rush Limbaugh and perhaps encourage him to change his opinion. If nothing else, we need to encourage Congresswoman Rosa DeLauro in her project, raise awareness, and, by doing so, help her find a co-sponsor for this piece of legislation.

Do you know a family who has struggled to purchase diapers (cloth or disposable)? Do you know a family living the reality of diapers or food? Are you that family? Please leave a comment telling me your story. I’m guessing that Rush’s team and the Congresswoman’s team will have Google Alerts to let them know that this post is here. They need to know who you are and what you think.

Other ways you can help:

URGENT Call to Action – The “DIAPER” Act

10/30/11: Visit our permanent page for up to date information. Thanks!

Updated 10/21/11: It’s important to note this legislation seeks only a DEFINITION change to existing legislation. There is no additional appropriation (read: no additional government funding) being sought.) Scroll down to the bottom of this post for additional documentation. Thank you!

Updated 10/17/11. We now have an online petition you can sign (see below). Thanks!

Updated 10/8/11: The bill has been introduced – H.R.3134. Thank you to everyone who has called their representatives. Scroll down to the bottom of this post to see who the co-sponsors are. Click here for the press release from Congresswoman DeLauro (CT). Please continue to call your representatives, telling them that you support the DIAPER Act, and want them to co-sponsor the bill. Thank you!

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Updated 10/6/11: The bill is being introduced into Congress today. We still need as many legislators to co-sponsor the bill between now and when Congress votes. Please continue to contact your representatives. Thank you to everyone who has already done so!

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Today is the day to make a difference with children and families who cannot access childcare due to lack of diapers.

I am asking that you call your Senators and Congressional Representatives to ask them to co-sponsor the “Diaper Investment and Aid to Promote Economic Recovery (“DIAPER”) Act.”Congresswoman Rosa DeLauro (D-CT) will be introducing this original piece of legislation on Thursday.

I was on Capitol Hill yesterday (10/4/11) and met with 2 Congressional Representativesand 2 U.S. Senators for my area (CA). At this point we need to place our phone calls and emails to our representatives and ask them to co-sponsor this bill.

Help To Build Relationships – Through Diapers!

We’ve moved A LOT of diapers in recent weeks, thanks in no small part to YOU. Thank you so much!

Did you know that the diapers you donate help build relationships?

One reason why outreach workers are so grateful for your support is that diapers help them to bridge relationships with their families. Here are a few testimonials we are passing along:

“Families need diapers and it is a good way to encourage parents’ active participation in our program. My families hardly cancel their home visits.” ~ Social worker

“In running a pantry, it is my job to save clients as much money as possible by providing groceries and other household items. Many of our clients have complained about the cost of diapers. Before HAMO started helping us, I had no way to get diapers for our clients and no where else to refer them to.” ~ Food pantry manager

“The mom got her eyes full of tears when she saw me in front of her door holding a bag of diapers.” ~ Social worker

With so much bad news out in the media these days we thought it important to let you know that we really appreciate your being part of building this much needed safety net. Thanks for your impact.

p.s. In case you haven’t seen: The Huffington Post and BabyCenter.com have reported that babies are getting fewer diaper changes in this down economy. As well, The Daily Beast reported that more than 40 percent of women who head families are now living in poverty. You are making an impact on the real people behind these media reports. Thank you so much.

Diaper Bank Partners: @DCDiaperBank Washington D.C. #hamo

This is the story of our newest partner the DC Diaper Bank as told by Corinne Cannon, founder and Executive Director of the DC Diaper Bank.

In October 2009 my husband Jay and I welcomed our first baby, a beautiful boy named Jack who turned out to be the world’s worst baby. Colicky, restless, high needs, call it what you will, he was awful! I distinctly remember sitting up with him one night/morning at 5am rocking him as he cried and thinking, “how do you do this if you don’t have enough money and family support?” Here I was with a ton of support — grandparents and aunts and uncles, a wonderful partner who was a 100% parent, and we were financially secure — and yet I still had days where I just couldn’t believe how hard it was.

I began to think about other mothers and about how I could help make raising an infant easier for people who lacked support. Then I began to research — I found out that diapers, something it seemed like we were buying all the time for Jack, weren’t covered by food stamps. I learned about the Diaper Bank in Connecticut and the one in Southern Arizona, and I saw an ad for the Huggies Every Little Bottom Campaign. I decided I would volunteer at the diaper bank in our area — it would become our charity of choice and we’d be helping mothers in a very tangible way. But then I found out there was no diaper bank in DC or Maryland or Virginia, or even Delaware or West Virginia.

I began to call non-profits who worked with mothers in DC and asked if they needed diapers for their clients and if so how they got them. The answers were striking and sad — one organization told me diapers were their number one need; another quickly rattled off the sizes they were most in need of. I decided after those phone calls to start a diaper bank — and we’ve been moving forward ever since. The response has been amazing! Dozens of diaper drives, donations from near and far, emails of support and thank you from strangers, and lots and lots of diapers! We have been lucky to partner with the Capital Area Food Bank, the largest food bank in the metro area, for storage and distribution of the diapers we collect. Initially we are working with eight social service organizations in DC, MD, and VA and are hoping to expand to more soon. The response from the organizations has been tremendous — diapers are a resource that they are always in need of. We feel strongly about providing diapers to organizations to use in ways that will best serve their clients – some organizations are food pantries and provide diapers as an emergency supply; others distribute them as an incentive for attendance at parenting classes; one low-income daycare uses them in their center.

I never intended to start a non-profit, but the need was too great to not do something and I knew this was a small piece of the puzzle that I could impact. I find that the “needs” in our community can be daunting to the point of paralysis sometimes — how do we tackle entrenched poverty? How do we build a society that values children and women? How do we create a social safety net that supports and propels families toward real self-sufficiency and stability? How do we all come to a place of truly understanding that things like food and shelter and diapers (and tampons and soap….) are not luxury items but basic necessities that no one should go without? I don’t know the answers to all of those questions, but I do know that it starts with simple, tangible, daily action.

Our mission statement, which some people have told us is far too grand for an organization that provides diapers, is about thinking about the issue of need in our community as something we all can and should impact — start small and build. Small individual actions like talking about child poverty; sharing a link about the issue; donating a pack of diapers or a few dollars; being an informed member of the community who asks questions about how new legislation or policies will impact those who are least able to ask that question for themselves; being a voice. Larger collective actions include large-scale diaper drives in neighborhoods, at businesses and day cares, and volunteering with others on the issue of poverty. The DC Diaper Bank does some of all of these things every day with the idea and the faith that if more people know and understand the needs and how to help alleviate the need in the short term, as well as address the issues long term through policy and paradigm changes, we will get to the place where families have all they need to thrive.

When I began this someone told me that it was pointless, that a clean diaper only helped a baby in the short term. They aren’t wrong: one clean diaper doesn’t solve the issue of infant and child poverty. But this person had probably never spent any time with a crying baby! One clean diaper does improve the short term, and the short term can build the long term for a child. I was amazed by some of the research that showed just what kind of an effect something as simple as a regular supply of clean diapers can have on an entire family unit – babies are happier and healthier, which means parents are less stressed and are able to focus their resources more on strengthening their family.

DC, like many communities, is facing a lot of financial challenges, and due to the recession social services have been hit hard. Before we founded the DC Diaper Bank, organizations that worked with families relied on unexpected diaper donations, or sometimes were able to devote some “extra” funds to diaper purchases in a given month. There was no steady supply of diapers for any of these organizations. We’re hoping to become that reliable source for many of these area organizations, and allow them to more effectively serve their clients. This is the biggest response we have gotten from the other organizations – they are grateful to have a steady supply of something that, for one, is a constant need for many of their clients, and for another, is something that many donors do not immediately think of when they are putting together a charitable donation. Most people think canned or packaged food for a shelter or a food pantry, not packaged diapers. Our biggest challenge now is going to be to keep up the supply to match the ever-increasing demand.

Our goal is to one day “be out of business.” The large questions come looming back — how do you change food stamp policies? How do we provide for all in our society? How do we ensure every child, and every parent, has a fair chance to succeed? I think that the answer to all these questions, and the key to making the need for DC Diaper Bank and Help a Mother Out obsolete, lies in increasing understanding around these isues so that whole cities and states are compelled to act. Start small and build. There is a quote from Mother Teresa that I have above my computer that propels me forward each day: “Do not wait for leaders. Do it alone, person to person.” A speech won’t get us there — talking, questioning, teaching, and showing will. The speech comes at the end.

In just nine short months, we have put together an organization that I am truly proud of. We have a lot of work left to do, but it is heartening to hear from our partner organizations, who tell us that our diapers are out there right now, making lives better for babies and families all over our community.

To find out more about the DC Diaper Bank check them out here, and on Facebook and Twitter.

Corinne tells me that Jack, that colicky baby, is now the most joyous and fun toddler.

Nickel and Dimed: Barbara Ehrenreich, On Americans (Not) Getting By (Again)

I’m not sure HAMO would have been born, had I not read Nickel and Dimed when it first came out in 2001. This is a book that all should read.

Originally posted on TomDispatch.com. Reposted with permission.

It was at lunch with the editor of Harper’s Magazine that the subject came up: How does anyone actually live “on the wages available to the unskilled”?  And then Barbara Ehrenreich said something that altered her life and resulted, improbably enough, in a bestselling book with almost two million copies in print.  “Someone,” she commented, “ought to do the old-fashioned kind of journalism — you know go out there and try it for themselves.”  She meant, she hastened to point out on that book’s first page, “someone much younger than myself, some hungry neophyte journalist with time on her hands.”

That was 1998 and, somewhat to her surprise, Ehrenreich soon found herself beginning the first of a whirl of unskilled “careers” as a waitress at a “family restaurant” attached to a big discount chain hotel in Key West, Florida, at $2.43 an hour plus tips.  And the rest, of course, is history.  The now famous book that resulted, Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting By in America, is just out in its tenth anniversary edition with a new afterword by Ehrenreich — perfectly timed for an American era in which the book’s subtitle might have to be changed to “On (Not) Getting a Job in America.”  TomDispatch takes special pride in offering Ehrenreich’s new afterword, adapted and shortened, for a book that, in its latest edition, deserves to sell another million copies.  Tom



Nickel and Dimed (2011 Version)
On Turning Poverty into an American Crime

By Barbara Ehrenreich

I completed the manuscript for Nickel and Dimed in a time of seemingly boundless prosperity. Technology innovators and venture capitalists were acquiring sudden fortunes, buying up McMansions like the ones I had cleaned in Maine and much larger. Even secretaries in some hi-tech firms were striking it rich with their stock options. There was loose talk about a permanent conquest of the business cycle, and a sassy new spirit infecting American capitalism. In San Francisco, a billboard for an e-trading firm proclaimed, “Make love not war,” and then — down at the bottom — “Screw it, just make money.”

When Nickel and Dimed was published in May 2001, cracks were appearing in the dot-com bubble and the stock market had begun to falter, but the book still evidently came as a surprise, even a revelation, to many. Again and again, in that first year or two after publication, people came up to me and opened with the words, “I never thought…” or “I hadn’t realized…”

To my own amazement, Nickel and Dimed quickly ascended to the bestseller list and began winning awards. Criticisms, too, have accumulated over the years. But for the most part, the book has been far better received than I could have imagined it would be, with an impact extending well into the more comfortable classes. A Florida woman wrote to tell me that, before reading it, she’d always been annoyed at the poor for what she saw as their self-inflicted obesity. Now she understood that a healthy diet wasn’t always an option.  And if I had a quarter for every person who’s told me he or she now tipped more generously, I would be able to start my own foundation.

Even more gratifying to me, the book has been widely read among low-wage workers. In the last few years, hundreds of people have written to tell me their stories: the mother of a newborn infant whose electricity had just been turned off, the woman who had just been given a diagnosis of cancer and has no health insurance, the newly homeless man who writes from a library computer.

At the time I wrote Nickel and Dimed, I wasn’t sure how many people it directly applied to — only that the official definition of poverty was way off the mark, since it defined an individual earning $7 an hour, as I did on average, as well out of poverty. But three months after the book was published, the Economic Policy Institute in Washington, D.C., issued a report entitled “Hardships in America: The Real Story of Working Families,” which found an astounding 29% of American families living in what could be more reasonably defined as poverty, meaning that they earned less than a barebones budget covering housing, child care, health care, food, transportation, and taxes — though not, it should be noted, any entertainment, meals out, cable TV, Internet service, vacations, or holiday gifts. Twenty-nine percent is a minority, but not a reassuringly small one, and other studies in the early 2000s came up with similar figures.


The big question, 10 years later, is whether things have improved or worsened for those in the bottom third of the income distribution, the people who clean hotel rooms, work in warehouses, wash dishes in restaurants, care for the very young and very old, and keep the shelves stocked in our stores. The short answer is that things have gotten much worse, especially since the economic downturn that began in 2008.

Post-Meltdown Poverty

When you read about the hardships I found people enduring while I was researching my book — the skipped meals, the lack of medical care, the occasional need to sleep in cars or vans — you should bear in mind that those occurred in thebest of times. The economy was growing, and jobs, if poorly paid, were at least plentiful.

In 2000, I had been able to walk into a number of jobs pretty much off the street. Less than a decade later, many of these jobs had disappeared and there was stiff competition for those that remained. It would have been impossible to repeat myNickel and Dimed“experiment,” had I had been so inclined, because I would probably never have found a job.

For the last couple of years, I have attempted to find out what was happening to the working poor in a declining economy — this time using conventional reporting techniques like interviewing. I started with my own extended family, which includes plenty of people without jobs or health insurance, and moved on to trying to track down a couple of the people I had met while working on Nickel and Dimed.

This wasn’t easy, because most of the addresses and phone numbers I had taken away with me had proved to be inoperative within a few months, probably due to moves and suspensions of telephone service. I had kept in touch with “Melissa” over the years, who was still working at Wal-Mart, where her wages had risen from $7 to $10 an hour, but in the meantime her husband had lost his job. “Caroline,” now in her 50s and partly disabled by diabetes and heart disease, had left her deadbeat husband and was subsisting on occasional cleaning and catering jobs. Neither seemed unduly afflicted by the recession, but only because they had already been living in what amounts to a permanent economic depression.

Media attention has focused, understandably enough, on the “nouveau poor” — formerly middle and even upper-middle class people who lost their jobs, their homes, and/or their investments in the financial crisis of 2008 and the economic downturn that followed it, but the brunt of the recession has been borne by the blue-collar working class, which had already been sliding downwards since de-industrialization began in the 1980s.

In 2008 and 2009, for example, blue-collar unemployment was increasing three times as fast as white-collar unemployment, and African American and Latino workers were three times as likely to be unemployed as white workers. Low-wage blue-collar workers, like the people I worked with in this book, were especially hard hit for the simple reason that they had so few assets and savings to fall back on as jobs disappeared.

How have the already-poor attempted to cope with their worsening economic situation? One obvious way is to cut back on health care. TheNew York Times reported in 2009 that one-third of Americans could no longer afford to comply with their prescriptions and that there had been a sizable drop in the use of medical care. Others, including members of my extended family, have given up their health insurance.

Food is another expenditure that has proved vulnerable to hard times, with the rural poor turning increasingly to “food auctions,” which offer items that may be past their sell-by dates. And for those who like their meat fresh, there’s the option of urban hunting. In Racine, Wisconsin, a 51-year-old laid-off mechanic told me he was supplementing his diet by “shooting squirrels and rabbits and eating them stewed, baked, and grilled.” In Detroit, where the wildlife population has mounted as the human population ebbs, a retired truck driver was doing a brisk business in raccoon carcasses, which he recommends marinating with vinegar and spices.

The most common coping strategy, though, is simply to increase the number of paying people per square foot of dwelling space — by doubling up or renting to couch-surfers.

It’s hard to get firm numbers on overcrowding, because no one likes to acknowledge it to census-takers, journalists, or anyone else who might be remotely connected to the authorities.

In Los Angeles, housing expert Peter Dreier says that “people who’ve lost their jobs, or at least their second jobs, cope by doubling or tripling up in overcrowded apartments, or bypaying 50 or 60 or even 70 percent of their incomes in rent.” According to a community organizer in Alexandria, Virginia, the standard apartment in a complex occupied largely by day laborers has two bedrooms, each containing an entire family of up to five people, plus an additional person laying claim to the couch.

No one could call suicide a “coping strategy,” but it is one way some people have responded to job loss and debt. There are no national statistics linking suicide to economic hard times, but the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline reported more than a four-fold increase in call volume between 2007 and 2009, and regions with particularly high unemployment, like Elkhart, Indiana, have seen troubling spikes in their suicide rates. Foreclosure is often the trigger for suicide — or, worse, murder-suicides that destroy entire families.

“Torture and Abuse of Needy Families”

We do of course have a collective way of ameliorating the hardships of individuals and families — a government safety net that is meant to save the poor from spiraling down all the way to destitution. But its response to the economic emergency of the last few years has been spotty at best. The food stamp program has responded to the crisis fairly well, to the point where it now reaches about 37 million people, up about 30% from pre-recession levels. But welfare — the traditional last resort for the down-and-out until it was “reformed” in 1996 — only expanded by about 6% in the first two years of the recession.

The difference between the two programs? There is a right to food stamps. You go to the office and, if you meet the statutory definition of need, they help you. For welfare, the street-level bureaucrats can, pretty much at their own discretion, just say no.

Take the case of Kristen and Joe Parente, Delaware residents who had always imagined that people turned to the government for help only if “they didn’t want to work.” Their troubles began well before the recession, when Joe, a fourth-generation pipe-fitter, sustained a back injury that left him unfit for even light lifting. He fell into a profound depression for several months, then rallied to ace a state-sponsored retraining course in computer repairs — only to find that those skills are no longer in demand. The obvious fallback was disability benefits, but — catch-22 — when Joe applied he was told he could not qualify without presenting a recent MRI scan. This would cost $800 to $900, which the Parentes do not have; nor has Joe, unlike the rest of the family, been able to qualify for Medicaid.

When they married as teenagers, the plan had been for Kristen to stay home with the children. But with Joe out of action and three children to support by the middle of this decade, Kristen went out and got waitressing jobs, ending up, in 2008, in a “pretty fancy place on the water.” Then the recession struck and she was laid off.

Kristen is bright, pretty, and to judge from her command of her own small kitchen, probably capable of holding down a dozen tables with precision and grace. In the past she’d always been able to land a new job within days; now there was nothing. Like 44% of laid-off people at the time, she failed to meet the fiendishly complex and sometimes arbitrary eligibility requirements for unemployment benefits. Their car started falling apart.

So the Parentes turned to what remains of welfare — TANF, or Temporary Assistance to Needy Families. TANF does not offer straightforward cash support like Aid to Families with Dependent Children, which it replaced in 1996. It’s an income supplementation program for working parents, and it was based on the sunny assumption that there would always be plenty of jobs for those enterprising enough to get them.

After Kristen applied, nothing happened for six weeks — no money, no phone calls returned. At school, the Parentes’ seven-year-old’s class was asked to write out what wish they would present to a genie, should a genie appear. Brianna’s wish was for her mother to find a job because there was nothing to eat in the house, an aspiration that her teacher deemed too disturbing to be posted on the wall with the other children’s requests.

When the Parentes finally got into “the system” and began receiving food stamps and some cash assistance, they discovered why some recipients have taken to calling TANF “Torture and Abuse of Needy Families.” From the start, the TANF experience was “humiliating,” Kristen says. The caseworkers “treat you like a bum. They act like every dollar you get is coming out of their own paychecks.”

The Parentes discovered that they were each expected to apply for 40 jobs a week, although their car was on its last legs and no money was offered for gas, tolls, or babysitting. In addition, Kristen had to drive 35 miles a day to attend “job readiness” classes offered by a private company called Arbor, which, she says, were “frankly a joke.”

Nationally, according to Kaaryn Gustafson of the University of Connecticut Law School, “applying for welfare is a lot like being booked by the police.”  There may be a mug shot, fingerprinting, and lengthy interrogations as to one’s children’s true paternity. The ostensible goal is to prevent welfare fraud, but the psychological impact is to turn poverty itself into a kind of crime.

How the Safety Net Became a Dragnet

The most shocking thing I learned from my research on the fate of the working poor in the recession was the extent to which poverty has indeed been criminalized in America.

Perhaps the constant suspicions of drug use and theft that I encountered in low-wage workplaces should have alerted me to the fact that, when you leave the relative safety of the middle class, you might as well have given up your citizenship and taken residence in a hostile nation.

Most cities, for example, have ordinances designed to drive the destitute off the streets by outlawing such necessary activities of daily life as sitting, loitering, sleeping, or lying down. Urban officials boast that there is nothing discriminatory about such laws: “If you’re lying on a sidewalk, whether you’re homeless or a millionaire, you’re in violation of the ordinance,” a St. Petersburg, Florida, city attorney stated in June 2009, echoing Anatole France’s immortal observation that “the law, in its majestic equality, forbids the rich as well as the poor to sleep under bridges…”

In defiance of all reason and compassion, the criminalization of poverty has actually intensified as the weakened economy generates ever more poverty. So concludes a recent study from the National Law Center on Poverty and Homelessness, which finds that the number of ordinances against the publicly poor has been rising since 2006, along with the harassment of the poor for more “neutral” infractions like jaywalking, littering, or carrying an open container.

The report lists America’s ten “meanest” cities — the largest of which include Los Angeles, Atlanta, and Orlando — but new contestants are springing up every day. In Colorado, Grand Junction’s city council is considering a ban on begging; Tempe, Arizona, carried out a four-day crackdown on the indigent at the end of June. And how do you know when someone is indigent? As a Las Vegas statute puts it, “an indigent person is a person whom a reasonable ordinary person would believe to be entitled to apply for or receive” public assistance.

That could be me before the blow-drying and eyeliner, and it’s definitely Al Szekeley at any time of day. A grizzled 62-year-old, he inhabits a wheelchair and is often found on G Street in Washington, D.C. — the city that is ultimately responsible for the bullet he took in the spine in Phu Bai, Vietnam, in 1972.

He had been enjoying the luxury of an indoor bed until December 2008, when the police swept through the shelter in the middle of the night looking for men with outstanding warrants. It turned out that Szekeley, who is an ordained minister and does not drink, do drugs, or cuss in front of ladies, did indeed have one — for “criminal trespassing,” as sleeping on the streets is sometimes defined by the law. So he was dragged out of the shelter and put in jail.

“Can you imagine?” asked Eric Sheptock, the homeless advocate (himself a shelter resident) who introduced me to Szekeley. “They arrested a homeless man in a shelter for being homeless?”

The viciousness of the official animus toward the indigent can be breathtaking. A few years ago, a group called Food Not Bombs started handing out free vegan food to hungry people in public parks around the nation. A number of cities, led by Las Vegas, passed ordinances forbidding the sharing of food with the indigent in public places, leading to the arrests of several middle-aged white vegans.

One anti-sharing law was just overturned in Orlando, but the war on illicit generosity continues. Orlando is appealing the decision, and Middletown, Connecticut, is in the midst of a crackdown. More recently, Gainesville, Florida, began enforcing a rule limiting the number of meals that soup kitchens may serve to 130 people in one day, and Phoenix, Arizona, has been using zoning laws to stop a local church from serving breakfast to homeless people.

For the not-yet-homeless, there are two main paths to criminalization, and one is debt. Anyone can fall into debt, and although we pride ourselves on the abolition of debtors’ prison, in at least one state, Texas, people who can’t pay fines for things like expired inspection stickers may be made to “sit out their tickets” in jail.

More commonly, the path to prison begins when one of your creditors has a court summons issued for you, which you fail to honor for one reason or another, such as that your address has changed and you never received it. Okay, now you’re in “contempt of the court.”

Or suppose you miss a payment and your car insurance lapses, and then you’re stopped for something like a broken headlight (about $130 for the bulb alone). Now, depending on the state, you may have your car impounded and/or face a steep fine — again, exposing you to a possible court summons. “There’s just no end to it once the cycle starts,” says Robert Solomon of Yale Law School. “It just keeps accelerating.”

The second — and by far the most reliable — way to be criminalized by poverty is to have the wrong color skin. Indignation runs high when a celebrity professor succumbs to racial profiling, but whole communities are effectively “profiled” for the suspicious combination of being both dark-skinned and poor. Flick a cigarette and you’re “littering”; wear the wrong color T-shirt and you’re displaying gang allegiance. Just strolling around in a dodgy neighborhood can mark you as a potential suspect. And don’t get grumpy about it or you could be “resisting arrest.”

In what has become a familiar pattern, the government defunds services that might help the poor while ramping up law enforcement.  Shut down public housing, then make it acrime to be homeless. Generate no public-sector jobs, then penalize people for falling into debt. The experience of the poor, and especially poor people of color, comes to resemblethat of a rat in a cage scrambling to avoid erratically administered electric shocks. And if you should try to escape this nightmare reality into a brief, drug-induced high, it’s “gotcha” all over again, because that of course is illegal too.

One result is our staggering level of incarceration, the highest in the world.  Today, exactly the same number of Americans — 2.3 million — reside in prison as in public housing. And what public housing remains has become ever more prison-like, with random police sweeps and, in a growing number of cities, proposed drug tests for residents. The safety net, or what remains of it, has been transformed into a dragnet.

It is not clear whether economic hard times will finally force us to break the mad cycle of poverty and punishment. With even the official level of poverty increasing — to over 14% in 2010 — some states are beginning to ease up on the criminalization of poverty, using alternative sentencing methods, shortening probation, and reducing the number of people locked up for technical violations like missing court appointments. But others, diabolically enough, are tightening the screws: not only increasing the number of “crimes,” but charging prisoners for their room and board, guaranteeing they’ll be released with potentially criminalizing levels of debt.

So what is the solution to the poverty of so many of America’s working people? Ten years ago, when Nickel and Dimed first came out, I often responded with the standard liberal wish list — a higher minimum wage, universal health care, affordable housing, good schools, reliable public transportation, and all the other things we, uniquely among the developed nations, have neglected to do.

Today, the answer seems both more modest and more challenging: if we want to reduce poverty, we have to stop doing the things that make people poor and keep them that way. Stop underpaying people for the jobs they do. Stop treating working people as potential criminals and let them have the right to organize for better wages and working conditions.

Stop the institutional harassment of those who turn to the government for help or find themselves destitute in the streets. Maybe, as so many Americans seem to believe today, we can’t afford the kinds of public programs that would genuinely alleviate poverty — though I would argue otherwise. But at least we should decide, as a bare minimum principle, to stop kicking people when they’re down.

Barbara Ehrenreich is the author of a number of books, most recently Bright-Sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America. This essay is a shortened version of a new afterword to her bestselling book Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting By in America, 10th Anniversary Edition, just released by Picador Books.

Excerpted from Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting By in America, 10th Anniversary Edition, published August 2nd by Picador USA. New afterword © 2011 by Barbara Ehrenreich. Excerpted by arrangement with Metropolitan Books, an imprint of Henry Holt and Company, LLC. All rights reserved.

It’s Really Not for the Love of Diapers

Today I came across this video via the Birth to Five Policy Alliance featuring an interview with Jack P. Shonkoff, M.D., the director for the Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University:


As Dr. Shonkoff mentions in the video, the brain is prepared to be shaped by experience. “Serve and return” experiences have a direct relation to a child’s learning capacities, behaviors, as well as physical and mental well being.

And as many a parent knows, a lot happens to the brain in the first three years of life that make it crucial for a child’s basic needs to be met. This includes an accessible supply of diapers.

It means, for example, there is less chance of diaper rash and a crying baby; and more of a chance that a caregiver will be less stressed out and may be able to concentrate on pressing family matters.There are many more reasons and you can find them here.

So it’s really not for the love of diapers that this work continues. It continues because all of you put a value on healthy children and know that they have a better chance at growing up to be healthy people when their initial “serve and return” experiences support positive cognitive and social development.

At the most basic level, this means that children must be given the chance to be kept in a clean and dry diaper. And because of many of YOU, more babies are able to have better experiences that will benefit all of us in the long term.

Tucson: Diaper Bank Beginnings

I recently had the pleasure of sitting down to talk with Hildy Gottlieb and Dimitri Petropolis, founders of the nation’s first Diaper Bank, Diaper Bank of Southern Arizona formerly known as the Community Diaper Bank of Southern Arizona. I can only attempt to capture the enthusiasm and energy that they radiated in that meeting. Dimitri and Hildy are truly inspirational and it was an honor to have so much of their time. This is the first of several blog posts based upon the meeting.

It really is quite an ordinary strip mall office in mid-town Tucson. I’ve driven past it a thousand times and not given it a second thought. However, for the past 17 years or so the ideas hatching in that office have been far from ordinary and have had an extraordinary impact not only on the Tucson community, but communities across the country.

In 1994 the office was a realty business recently purchased by Hildy and Dimitri. Wanting to get back to the work that made a difference in the community, Hildy and Dimitri added consulting with local Native American tribes in sustainable, non-gaming development to their work. Nowhere in their business plan were diapers mentioned. Their work with diapers was not planned, just a bit of holiday giving gone wildly and wonderfully astray.

A couple days before Thanksgiving one of the staff members suggested that a donation of diapers to Casa de los Ninos, a local safe haven for children, might be a nice idea for the office’s charitable holiday donation. A week or so later that simple office donation had expanded into a diaper drive and then something much bigger. Rather than the typical exchanging of goods with their local business partners and fellow realtors Hildy and Dimitri sent out a message via their holiday card,

“Don’t give us _______. Give us a diaper.”

A little bit unorthodox, a little bit silly, but their partners and fellow realtors took to it and the diapers began to roll in. What if, they thought, we were to get a radio station in on this? Perhaps we could make it bigger still. They faxed all the local radio stations. Stone cold silence from most, a snicker from one, and then a peep, morning DJ Bobby Rich, at what was then Cloud FM, now MIX FM, called to say that this sounded like a good fit with Cloud. This sort of drive-by event wasn’t common back in ’94, but Bobby and his crew set up their equipment outside this small midtown office in the wee hours of the morning so that they could do the morning show and a diaper drive. It should be noted that 3 am in Tucson in December is cold, very cold, below freezing cold, so this was no small commitment. At the end of the first broadcast Bobby said “We’re in this for the long haul.” He meant it. Seventeen years later Bobby still does the diaper drive every December.

Hildy and Dimitri, along with their staff and Bobby Rich, collected over twenty thousand diapers that first drive in 1994. As the diapers rolled in so did the stories of impact. It became clear to Hildy and Dimitri that helping with this one basic need had a positive ripple effect: A parent may have received help with housing and job training, but if they have very young children they are often unable to take advantage of their job training; they can’t afford the disposable diapers that they have to leave at the childcare facility while they work. The inability to take an offered job is a devastating loss to families who are working hard to get back on their feet. The social safety net has a big gaping hole in it and its name is diapers. Help diaper a child and help a family escape poverty.

Next time: A Diaper Bank is Born and Lessons in Compassion

 

Photo courtesy of Creating the Future

Sent To Folsom Prison

The following testimonial is from a “Cara,” a now single mom. Unfortunately this wasn’t the first story we’ve heard about someone serving time as a result of stealing diapers.

From Cara:

The diapers that I receive here help me get through the month without stressing on how I’m going to keep my child warm and dry. About a year ago my child’s father went to the store to get diapers. We had no money. He went to the store to steal the diapers. He was caught again second offence. He’s now in Folson State Prison. Over some diapers. How petty can that get.

I am very thankful for organizations like this. Had there not been a place like this my child would have to suffer. Thank you again and may God bless you.

This is just like Les Misérables, except this IS real life.

Are you as heartbroken as I am?

I never thought that one day I’d be homeless

Ever wonder what it is like to be a homeless mom? Our guest blogger today is Carey Fuller (@Indyinnz). She’s a west coast mom, who like most of us, wants the best for her kids. Thank you for sharing your story, Carey.

When I first heard about Help A Mother Out, it was on Twitter. I saw some tweets flash by and thought to myself, “Okay, who are they and what are they about?” I clicked on the link to go to the website and reading about mothers needing diapers sure brought back a lot of memories of my first born and my youngest daughter so this looked like a cause I could really “get behind”! I’m sure that my experiences will differ from most since I raised my kids for seven years out of a Minnie Winnebago and now, a mini-van.

Like most people who find themselves homeless, I never thought that one day I’d be homeless. In April of 2004 I moved into a 1981 Minnie Winnebago with a nine-year old and a one and a half year old. I tried to get help before things got to this point but soon discovered that Section 8 was closed to applications in my state and for those already on the waiting lists for several years, if they got housing vouchers, it would be awarded on a lottery basis. Shelters weren’t an option since they were so over loaded people were getting turned away in fact that still is the case. Most cities never built shelters to handle the volumes we see now. Add to this the fact that many shelters are not safe places to be and you can see why I preferred the Minnie Winnebago instead.

My original plan was to try to save enough money to buy my own property while living out of the RV but….gas prices shot up and if you’ve ever owned a motor home, you know how much gas they eat! As a result of prices going up, I couldn’t save anything to get out of our situation. One thing piled up on another as a result of being homeless. For instance, landlord’s want to see a current rental history and once you’re homeless, you don’t have that. I had a manager of an apartment complex tell me that the rental history couldn’t be from a trailer park either (something she volunteered to offer once she saw that I had driven there in the RV).

When I first moved into the RV I had lost my job and child support completely stopped. Just because you have a support order DOES NOT mean it can be collected, especially if a dead beat uses his knowledge as an attorney to play every loophole he can find. I had lost my job and what little money I had was what remained of my tax refund after I purchased the Winnebago. 8 months went by before I was able to get a part time job working nights at a local newspaper plant. The job only paid $8.00 an hour but it was enough for gas. I didn’t have childcare nor could I afford it. When I worked two jobs, I paid $460.00 a month, childcare was $960.00. I would park the RV in front of the warehouse facing the windows so that I could see it from where I was at. I would check on the kids sleeping in the upper bunk on my break. I was a nervous wreck from worrying that a co-worker would find out.

When daylight came, I woke the kids up and got my eldest ready for school. Per her request, I would park down the street from the school so that she could walk the rest of the way without anyone finding out she lived in a motor home. She was very adamant about the other kids not finding out. As for my youngest, she didn’t know the difference. To her, growing up in the Winnebago was perfectly normal and when we went to spend nights at friend’s house, she didn’t like it. She would keep asking to go back to OUR house, the RV. Whenever school was out, we hung out in campgrounds or parks during the day. We slept in WalMart parking lots, rest stops, truck stops and any other commercial site that allowed us to. Eventually I was able to find a friend who worked at the newspaper to help me with childcare and six months later, I got a full-time day job working at a financial services company. I was back to working two jobs again but doing this for years on end, seven days a week has consequences.

I worked with little sleep until I collapsed, what else could I do? I didn’t qualify for foodstamps at the time or any other “state aid” so I had no other choice. I never thought I’d see the day where I would stay up at night behind the steering wheel of a Winnebago and listen to my kids cry themselves to sleep because they were hungry. I never thought I’d see the day that my own relatives would treat me as though I contacted a contagious disease either but that’s what happens when you tell folks you are homeless. Rather than let my situation drag me down I decided to do something about it.

I decided to tell my story to an editor at Change.org. To be honest, I fully expected my letter to go into the “oval file” so to speak. To my surprise it was published online within thirty minutes after the editor read it. Through them I met Mark Horvath, creator of Invisible People TV and We Are Visible, both of which are on Facebook. I am now the community manager on those sites, have been on a couple of radio shows, been written about in The Huffington Post and continue to talk to whoever wants to write about my experiences. I do this because homelessness is not the stereotypical “bum on the sidewalk” that most people think of whenever the subject comes up. Today a large portion of homeless people are single parents and families that lost their jobs and their homes. With the economy the way it is right now, the number of homeless people will increase so it is imperative that people see what’s really going on out here. We didn’t stop being human just because we lost our homes.

It is my hope that other people going through what I went through, am continuing to go through, will see that homelessness is a situation that can be dealt with in a positive way. Don’t give up and don’t lose hope!

I can be found at http://invisibull.wordpress.com, @Indyinnz on Twitter, Carey Fuller on Facebook, Indy on Blogher.com, or come visit us at We Are Visible and Invisible People TV also on Facebook.

 

Photo credit via Creative Commons 2.0: Alex E. Proimos

This Broke My Heart

I am an early childhood teacher for children with special needs. I have a student in desperate need of large size diapers or pull-ups. We have asked the family for over a year to send in diapers for us to use and because they are of a low income, they do not send any in. When they do, they are extremely small. This child always has diaper rash that is so bad it bleeds. We have exhausted all of our extras left over from other students and don’t know what else to do …
— From Illinois

Mark Horvath (@hardlynormal) On Homeless Families & Why Diapers Matter

On December 14 the city of Glendale, CA held an event called Homeless Connect Day. The purpose of this event was to bring representatives from community resources together in one place, at one time, to give the area’s homeless a chance to access services all at once.  In addition, there was a barber station, a three piece band, a harpist, free food, free clothing, and a wireless internet station to give the people a chance to check their email or even sign up for email or other internet services.  This station was provided by Mark Horvath.  With the help of my friend Julia Frey, I chased Mark down and nabbed him for a quick interview.

Check it out:

I Can’t Afford Diapers So I Will Have To Wait It Out

We recently received the following comment on this oldie but goodie post, from mom Milyene. It really brought to home to me why HAMO has evolved from a one off drive to something greater than we ever imagined.

From Milyene:

“As I mother myself, I have found myself feeling guilty after throwing a diaper away just after getting a little pee or poo in it. I never really scratched the surface until recently working with a non-profit providing gifts to families in need. I noticed the babies that came in really smelled like their diapers hadn’t been changed. I informed a mother that I believe her baby just pooed, and she said “oh i know. i can’t afford enough diapers so i will have to wait it out a bit more” and laughed. It really got me thinking. I am so happy to have found you guys under babble.com’s “50 best charities for babies and small children”.. Thank you!!!”

Thank you, Milyene for sharing this story with us. We’re glad you found us!

Yesterday I went to Children’s Hospital of Oakland to drop off our monthly diaper distribution. My contact there told me a story about a mom who essentially had a mental breakdown because she didn’t have the money to buy diapers for her baby. Can you imagine being in this position? I can’t. While I’m happy to hear this mom received some of our diapers, I’m heartbroken that this continues to be a daily reality for so many women and families.

Thank you for being a part of our community and for valuing the families we serve. There is still so much to be done, and while we’ve made some great strides this past year, we can’t wait to take it to the next level. I’m looking forward to having you be a part of it.

Wishing you and yours a wonderful holiday.

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MoveOn.Org Members: Please Nominate Help A Mother Out? #HAMO

Friends,

Our gal Rachel F. just sent this link to me. It’s a call to action by MoveOn.Org. Their calling for nominations for worthy non profits MoveOn should support.

Are you a MoveOn member?

Won’t you please take 1 minute to nominate our grassroots organization to MoveOn.org?

This could be a GAME CHANGER for us. I hope you will considering sharing our cause with a large audience at MoveOn.org and nominate us today.

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Our name: Help A Mother Out

Our URL: http://www.helpamotherout.org/

Is there anything else you’d like to tell us: Help a Mother Out (HAMO) is a nationally recognized grassroots organization dedicated to increasing access to diapers for families in need. Started by two moms (March, 2009) with an initial investment of $100, this one time diaper drive has developed into an innovative non profit raising both diapers (nearly half a million to date) and awareness. We advocate for long term change in federal social safety net programs, as no program (e.g., food stamps, WIC) currently includes diapers. Our vision is a day when every baby has an adequate supply of diapers.

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The deadline for nominations is Tuesday, December 21st, at 9 a.m. EST. After nominations are submitted, MoveOn members will vote on which organizations to promote to the entire MoveOn membership for an end-of-the-year fundraiser. Voting will open on December 22nd—keep an eye out for an email announcement, and for details on how to vote.

Just a few of the reasons why we think you should nominate us:

  • Since March, 2009 we’ve collected nearly half a million diapers for homeless and low income families who have been hit hard by the economic downturn.
  • We aspire to be the MoveOn/MomsRising of the diaper cause!
  • We’re working hard with other public policy advocates to realize the vision of a day when diapers are included in federal safety net programs such as like WIC or Food Stamps.
  • You’ve heard of non profits operating on a shoe string budget? Well, ours is more like a dental floss budget. We are an all volunteer mom-run organization and your nomination would make a huge difference in raising awareness for our cause.

Thanks for nominating us to MoveOn.org!

In community,

Lisa

Diapers Are Gold … We Say That Everyday Here #hamo

In this economic climate gold has become a popular investment strategy for those who are able to purchase it for safe keeping. I wish I had a few bars of it myself to bury in the backyard, don’t you?

Today I want to talk about another kind of gold. Something more than a few agencies have told us since the beginning of HAMO: diapers are like gold. In low income neighborhoodsfood deserts, and across the social service sector – diapering “gold” is a hot commodity. It’s something so basic that many of us don’t think much about, yet mothers across the country spend a considerable amount of time worrying about and trying to procure.

If you want to know the reasons why this cause struck a cord with us and why we continue to volunteer our skills and time to raise diapers and awareness please watch this interview with Community Health Workers Alma Garcia, Elisa Garcia, and Nakisha Allen of Homeless Prenatal Program:


Much gratitude to Alma, Nakisha, and Elisafor taking the time to share their work with HAMO.

And THANK YOU to all our friends who are creating a safety net for families in need.

Inspired to act? You can help us continue our diaper program by making a monetary donation here, or if you prefer, ship diapers directly to us through our wishlist, or drop ‘em off in person.


Start a Ripple, Please Give Diapers in December

Welcome friends old and new!

Diapers are often a forgotten basic need that is lacking not only during the holidays, but year round. It’s very helpful to donate food and toys, but we must remember that for many homeless and nearly homeless families, 1 diaper a day is all they have for their baby. Many shelters and family resources centers have diapers at the top of their wishlist.

Here’s your easy link guide to how you can join the campaign to diaper babies butt’s in the month of December.

How to help in December:

  1. Donate diapers in person
  2. Participate in our Virtual Diaper Drive

Diaper facts, ideas, resources:

We hope we’ve inspired you with another way to give back to your community. Please drop us a line, send pictures of your diaper collection event, and keep in touch with us by becoming an official member.

Photo courtesy of D Sharon Pruitt, under Creative Commons